The anguish of loss can be devastating, be it in cases of calamities, bereavement, disappearance or even getting laid off a job. Loss is inevitable, we lose people and when that happens, the agony is felt because this is a journey of no return where promises are left unkept, dreams are left unachieved and memories linger on the side of those behind. However, when it happens intentionally, it is even more sorrowful.
Yesterday she said “Mary just died to me “it felt awkward, I didn’t understand what she meant and I asked her. She said “in my world, Mary just died. I no longer consider her a friend, neither do I want to have anything to do with her.” I was dazed, I remembered that just last week, she and Mary were best friends, jolly, loving and adorable.
What do you do when people just walk out of your life? Especially when they leave without saying a word, and then you are subjected to a fate worse than death itself. To them, it was just a mere friendship but you remembered daily, how well you loved them. They let you wonder about the things you have done wrong. They let you think you are not good enough, they let you question your values and standards.
But you will soon realize that this is all about life. You will understand they left sometimes for a bunch of selfish reasons « the purpose that links you both together no longer exists, they want to be alone, they just want to disappear »
Pain and loss are inevitable and we should let go of trying to resist them, we need to make space for the good to come, and we need to get into a greater position where certain people may not perfectly fit. Yes, pain and hurt are real, the more you ascend, the more oppositions you face and you are going to make firm decisions.
Someone will leave you, and you will leave someone to go into your destiny, it’s a vicious circle but don’t stop living and enjoying the one person that really matters. Yourself! Seek your personal happiness, you are not the center of the universe for anyone’s life except your own!
Life is not always filled full of roses and unicorns, at times they are lived on borrowed time and you need to learn to move on. The beauty of life comes when you are self-driven and satisfied with yourself and race after your ambitions.
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